So you can imagine me as I’m checking out search volume on the topic of sex, marriages, cheating and divorce on Google trends. Just look at the combination of “sex” and “cheat” over the last several years.

Sex and Cheating are on our minds at Christmas

Search volume for sex goes up and down on a weekly cycle, with more searches on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. A little week-end nookie, no doubt. That weekly cycle is year long, with some seasonal variation.

Google's keyword trend for 'sex'

Cheating is big big BIG at Christmas time

Wait, there’s more! Look at the peaks for love in this graph: Valentines day in February is when people think of love, and NOT cheating. OK, now this demands another response: Why should we think of love MORE in february rather than at christmas time?

Valentine's day is when we really think of love!

This leaves my session open and I often get interrupted by scam artists from far away continents. This is one of these interruptions that had a better outcome.

On my profile on Yahoo, I have hypnosis listed as one of my interests: And I really am interested in it as it is the easiest and most painless method to help with inner transformation that I know of. It sure beats chemicals or months with a so-called therapist: Did you know that the psychological industry claims a success rate of well below 50 percent? Not my statistics, theirs.

But I digress: most folks have some pretty morbid ideas about hypnosis: there is a whole league of people who want to be hypnotized on line (by Internet Messaging text!!) to the point of having orgasm. How fun.

Anyway, this is one of those conversations: I thought it actually ended up with some benefit for our WebSearcher…

WebSercher:

hello and good afternoon

Me:

hello,  

WebSercher:

i’m very interested in being a subject

Me:

? subject?

WebSercher:

to be hypnotized

Me:

Ahhhh.

Me:

What are your goals?  Your thoughts on trance?

WebSercher:

i would like to be controlled

WebSercher:

i’m str8 and married , but would like to see what it would be like to experience another man – possibly through hypnosis

WebSercher:

is that strange?

Me:

Hmm.  Well, to be honest, that’s a bit outside of my arena.  No it is not strange — a good fantasy is a private gem.

Me:

I don’t really focus on either ‘control’ or sexual fantasies.  I do a lot of stuff with, well, emotional resolution and harmony.

Me:

weeding the mental/emotional garden to use a metaphor

Me:

You can see a bit more about that on my web site:  The Celarien Experience.

Me:

for sexual stuff, you might contact my friend ‘xxxyyyzzz’

Me:

He does not trance men, but he may know of someone who does.

WebSercher:

thanks

Me:

Anytime, and if you would like to feel the bliss of your real core-states, then call me back, OK?

WebSercher:

please explain

Me:

Sure, all of our actions/thoughts/fantasies are done for one of three reasons: to get us something we need to ‘be’, ‘do’ , or ‘have’

Me:

Think about it.  Everything is basically, at the core, done for these simple reasons.

Me:

By following the chain of motivations for your actions (not the sequence of actions, the motivators),

Me:

I can help you get to the very bottom of that chain.  It is one of your ‘core motivators’

WebSercher:

yes

Me:

And when you experience the reality of what really motivates you, you touch your bliss.

WebSercher:

yes – i would like that

Me:

Well, I have never done it by distance: I don’t think that text alone will do it.

WebSercher:

phone?

Me:

Possibly by web-cam, but I’m not sure that would work.

Me:

I’m  unsure that phone would work, since the client (that’s you) goes silent as you experience the state.

WebSercher:

i’m camless

Me:

I’m in Honolulu, and you are far, far away.

Me:

I would suggest that you contact the group that invented the technique (they are in Colorado, I believe) and see if there are any practitioners in your area.

WebSercher:

i c

Me:

The group was started by Connierae Andreas, and the technique is ‘core transformations’

WebSercher:

thanks

Me:

Tell me how your investigations go, OK?

WebSercher:

ok

Me:

And if you get to Hawaii, you might call in for a session.

WebSercher:

i feel drawn to you – is that strange?

Me:

Well, I identify with the Tarot card’s “Hermit’ — a person who has secret knowledge to share.  So,  it could be possible.

Me:

We humans have an inborn ability to reshape our emotional/mental terrain.  It is unique to humans, but we hardly ever activate that ability:  I think it is the real goal of the old Alchemists:   You know, internal transformation.

WebSercher:

yes

WebSercher:

i think you could easily hypnotize me

Me:

You may be ready for some transformation work.  Nearly everybody in our culture is ‘running on empty’

Me:

Do some investigation, and some meditation, and contact me some time soon, OK?

WebSercher:

ok

That’s it. And if you want the Yahoo message handle of that erotic hypnotist, you could e-mail me….

And so with the most important thing of all,our very most personal relationships. So personal that we hesitate to make a connection lest it damage ourselves, or worse, our partner. Damn you if your love turns sour, but double damn me if I inadvertently hurt you through my love for you.

And so I am delighted to bring two incredible viewpoints from ladies that are trying to explore new territory and to bring light to what used to be forbidden topics.

The first is from Jenny Block who has given us the insights into an open marriage: a valid agreement for multiple lovers in a committed relationship.

The second is from Suzanne Portnoy who really has had it with monogamy. She is open about liking sex, liking men, and not bashful at all when it comes to saying: “Not Exclusive!” Some would call her a prostitute, but for two things: she does it for free, because she wants to. And with whom she wants to. Both are things that separate her from mere prostitution: she exhibits, neither.

She has authored two books that you should know about: The Not So Invisible Woman, and the erotic memoir: The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker.

Can you handle a woman like that? I wonder if many men could, a strong woman should be a national treasure.