I put on my clothes, but when I put my sox on my big toe popped through. Dammit, I had washed that sock and put it on again! It seems that I have done that before. Several times. For two months. Two months? Talk about a slow learner. My reaction was pretty stupid: “This nasty thing still hanging around?”

But true to form, I kept the sock on. I’m wearing it now. And it will end up in the laundry again.

The only time I really know that this sock is bogus is when I put it on. It is that moment, and no other when I can make that decision to toss it away. (I wouldn’t mend it, with my technique, I would sew my toes together.). I may think that I have made the decision by saying: “next time I put that sock on I’ll throw it away.” but the decision is really made at that small moment.

The time for action is tiny. At the moment I put it on. Isn’t it the same for emotions? When you put them on, you experience the consequences. And you have that choice to keep or discard a useless emotion.

It is this exact opportunity for Free Choice. When the moment comes, will you see clearly to the higher good and make the choice freely? Or will your view be cluttered by useless reactions? Will you do over and over and over the same decision and become a member of the hole in the sock gang? Or ?

Once I see a life pattern like my sock habits, I can change it, keep it, or enhance it. If I’m truly living in the moment, with all my abilities and choices available, I can make the right decision. This is where my NLP training comes in handy: I just set an anchor to wake up to the moment, and enter the right state, make the decision, and see what conflicts arise. Yes, there could be conflicts. Resolve them the same way. NLP rocks!

NLP is one of the best tools for you to keep you emotional socks from becoming unravelled. Tend your emotions as you would a garden. Use the right tool to weed your emotional garden, and you will see more clearly the higher good.

By the way, as I edit this for the last time, let me assure you: That sock is history!

James Hinds is a spiritual teacher who uses the art of NLP to create bliss states. Check out his web site http://blissblvd.com/

Not too long ago, I wrote a book for mid-life couples to help them re-focus on each other when the kids leave the home and retirement may be around the corner.

That is a critical time in a relationship: a huge percentage of divorces occur at exactly that time. A couple starts out in love, but time changes, values change, attraction changes. The book Romantic Trances is dedicated to the idea that a couple can find common ground and with the help of NLP, can regain the glow and rekindle the romance.

All that is well and good, but I wanted to get it out to the public to see what reception I could get: I’m in the process of re-writing it now!

I would not have been able to do that unless I got about 100 copies out into the hands of people so that I could get feedback on what worked and what didn’t.

Simply put, I wanted a way to print and bind an attractive paperback that I could do with simple materials. I figured out a unique and novel way to print a book using a duplexing printer and a therma-bind unit. The printer was a Samsung unit that had a price tag under $500. The therma-bind unit cost less than $100. I have since graduated to a Brother color laser with an even lower cost per page.

How I was able to do this involved a rather tricky way to shuffle the pages front and back and side to side so that one run through the printer would create two paperbacks. I would tack the outer edge with hot-melt glue, wrap a glossy bookcover around the pages and stick it in the therma-bind like a piece of toast in a toaster.

Bingo, instant paperback.

It took less than an afternoon to print out 100 copies, and the only part of the production that I could not do myself was to make the finishing cut: That was simple, any local copy shop has a hydraulic cutting station that will do the job. The printer can create a stack of several of the raw books, and cut them all at once. Five cuts, and that created 100 books: Cost per cut? One dollar. Total out of pocket expense? Five dollars.

You can find out more at the Publishing your Own Paperback Book article at Pine Articles e-zine.

This leaves my session open and I often get interrupted by scam artists from far away continents. This is one of these interruptions that had a better outcome.

On my profile on Yahoo, I have hypnosis listed as one of my interests: And I really am interested in it as it is the easiest and most painless method to help with inner transformation that I know of. It sure beats chemicals or months with a so-called therapist: Did you know that the psychological industry claims a success rate of well below 50 percent? Not my statistics, theirs.

But I digress: most folks have some pretty morbid ideas about hypnosis: there is a whole league of people who want to be hypnotized on line (by Internet Messaging text!!) to the point of having orgasm. How fun.

Anyway, this is one of those conversations: I thought it actually ended up with some benefit for our WebSearcher…

WebSercher:

hello and good afternoon

Me:

hello,  

WebSercher:

i’m very interested in being a subject

Me:

? subject?

WebSercher:

to be hypnotized

Me:

Ahhhh.

Me:

What are your goals?  Your thoughts on trance?

WebSercher:

i would like to be controlled

WebSercher:

i’m str8 and married , but would like to see what it would be like to experience another man – possibly through hypnosis

WebSercher:

is that strange?

Me:

Hmm.  Well, to be honest, that’s a bit outside of my arena.  No it is not strange — a good fantasy is a private gem.

Me:

I don’t really focus on either ‘control’ or sexual fantasies.  I do a lot of stuff with, well, emotional resolution and harmony.

Me:

weeding the mental/emotional garden to use a metaphor

Me:

You can see a bit more about that on my web site:  The Celarien Experience.

Me:

for sexual stuff, you might contact my friend ‘xxxyyyzzz’

Me:

He does not trance men, but he may know of someone who does.

WebSercher:

thanks

Me:

Anytime, and if you would like to feel the bliss of your real core-states, then call me back, OK?

WebSercher:

please explain

Me:

Sure, all of our actions/thoughts/fantasies are done for one of three reasons: to get us something we need to ‘be’, ‘do’ , or ‘have’

Me:

Think about it.  Everything is basically, at the core, done for these simple reasons.

Me:

By following the chain of motivations for your actions (not the sequence of actions, the motivators),

Me:

I can help you get to the very bottom of that chain.  It is one of your ‘core motivators’

WebSercher:

yes

Me:

And when you experience the reality of what really motivates you, you touch your bliss.

WebSercher:

yes – i would like that

Me:

Well, I have never done it by distance: I don’t think that text alone will do it.

WebSercher:

phone?

Me:

Possibly by web-cam, but I’m not sure that would work.

Me:

I’m  unsure that phone would work, since the client (that’s you) goes silent as you experience the state.

WebSercher:

i’m camless

Me:

I’m in Honolulu, and you are far, far away.

Me:

I would suggest that you contact the group that invented the technique (they are in Colorado, I believe) and see if there are any practitioners in your area.

WebSercher:

i c

Me:

The group was started by Connierae Andreas, and the technique is ‘core transformations’

WebSercher:

thanks

Me:

Tell me how your investigations go, OK?

WebSercher:

ok

Me:

And if you get to Hawaii, you might call in for a session.

WebSercher:

i feel drawn to you – is that strange?

Me:

Well, I identify with the Tarot card’s “Hermit’ — a person who has secret knowledge to share.  So,  it could be possible.

Me:

We humans have an inborn ability to reshape our emotional/mental terrain.  It is unique to humans, but we hardly ever activate that ability:  I think it is the real goal of the old Alchemists:   You know, internal transformation.

WebSercher:

yes

WebSercher:

i think you could easily hypnotize me

Me:

You may be ready for some transformation work.  Nearly everybody in our culture is ‘running on empty’

Me:

Do some investigation, and some meditation, and contact me some time soon, OK?

WebSercher:

ok

That’s it. And if you want the Yahoo message handle of that erotic hypnotist, you could e-mail me….

I recently stumbled on this great web page that reveals some of the best information I’ve come across in a long time.

http://www.cleanlanguage.co.uk/Mirrormodel.html

It has often been said (note the lack of referential index — that’s an NLP in-joke) that all of NLP is either reframing or anchoring. I’ve felt uncomfortable with that short sighted appraisal of NLP, in that it does not look at the whole of NLP with regard to the whole person in the context of the whole society. Simply put, there is lot’s more than reframing and anchoring.

The Clean Language site brings out another of the facets of NLP: How and why to listen. Listening is neither reframing, nor anchoring. But this new way of listening is a central skill of NLP. Visit the page. Read. Learn. Live.

So, what did the CR study conclude? That psychotherapy does work and does quite well in many measurable respects. Specifically:

• Long-term treatment was always better than short-term treatment, and the longer, the better.
• Medication plus psychotherapy was no better than psychotherapy alone.
• Psychologists, psychiatrists and social workers did equally well in improving the clients condition and outperformed marriage counselors.
• Family Doctors did well in the short term, but less so in the long term.
• Alcoholics Anonymous did especially well for alcoholics, and significantly better than mental health professionals.
• Clients that were active participants in selecting the therapy and therapist did much better than passive recipients.
• No specific modality of treatment did better than others. This should not be the case if the treatments from efficacy studies actually did perform better than other treatments. This is the famous Dodo Bird Verdict from Alice in Wonderland, where the dodo bird declared that everyone had won the caucus race and everyone must have prizes
• Clients that were limited to a fixed number of sessions by insurance providers did worse than clients who continued to receive treatment.

This is quite a list of results, and is actually good news for the ability to measure the results of therapist practitioners in the real-world. Of special note, however, is that no grand theory of psychology was actually better than any other: The dodo bird verdict! And that includes phychoanalysis, cognitive, behavioral, or any other grand theory.

Your lesson from this? Pick a therapist that you like. Ask about how well they are at making real changes in their clients. Stick with them. And above all, do not go to a therapist because your employer or insurance company will pay for a limited number of sessions!

My personal and professional opinion is that hypnosis, especially the excellent therapies derived from Tad James’ Time-line Therapy(tm) are the most effective, like my own The Celarien Experience®. It can be very rapid and well worth researching. Check it out.

Maybe you think about that from time to time. Play that over and over in your head. Think about the things leading up to that. Or maybe how that makes you feel. Or maybe you daydream about what happens after that. Tell me about that, all that and more.

Think about that. Maybe you can’t even remember the first time for that. How you were before, and after that. Maybe you feel bad about parts of that, the things leading up to that, or the things inside of, or after that. Some thought leads up to feeling and that leads up to a memory or image you have in your head, which gives you another thought and all thoughts, feelings and images and memories are about that daydream. About that. Mostly, you daydream in your unconscious at the speed of thought, much faster than you can be aware of. But, now, you are consciously aware of the general feeling and some of the echoes of those daydreams. And as you are going about your day, you have to play these daydreams really fast, below your awareness, you do that because you need to do all the things in your life, your clothes, your job, your family, all, and you just cant let those daydreams about that bubble up to the surface.

Except here and now, you can slow it down, slow it down, until you can control the images, thoughts and feelings. Step away from that. Leave that behind. Slow down the images, talk about them, pick them apart. Let me know how they flow from one to another and how each makes you feel. Because when you slow them way down, they can be controlled. Re-learned, re-learned, just like you learned that in the first place.

Think about babies learning. Babies learn with daydreams. Mostly these daydreams are feelings, muscle and skin and bladder, and stomach feelings. And things to see, and blankets to feel, and milk to taste and poop to smell. Of nights that are too cold, and dark. And the smell of wonderful soft warm, holding holding all around you just as you have sweet liquid food going into your mouth and down to your stomach and your hunger vanishes and you are warm and happy.

When you are a baby, you just don’t have many concepts, you have fewer, much, much fewer. So you go over them slower, and are highly conscious of them too. That’s how you can learn what a mommy is and what a blanket is and where your thumb is. Because you have to learn slowly in your conscious mind. As a baby, your thumb is in your conscious mind, a lot. what it feels like when you curl it, what the thumbnail feels like on your tongue, how your muscles feel like when it moves farther and closer to your mouth. And you think about those things as a baby, and you learn, and as time passes, you still think about these same things, but much, much faster, and without using your conscious mind, because that would slow these things down so much that you could not do them any more.

Some things you learn quickly, because they are fun. And that’s good. And some things you learn quickly, because it hurts. And it’s good some things you learn quickly, because you need to. You learn what a momma is, you learn what your favorite toy and when you hold it you learn what each sound is just so, when you move your hand and arm just so. You learn what a warm soft blanket is, and what a cold wet diaper is, and how you like one, and not the other, but even so, it took you months of wet diapers to learn how to use the toilet and that little trick that keeps your self dry. And how did you learn it? Because you were thinking about your body, you were paying very close attention with your conscious mind. And you said “YES” and let your unconscious mind know it was important. And you took the time because it was the thing to do, it is important to take the time to learn, when there is something to learn.

If you think about how each muscle must move for you to walk, for you to move one foot in front of the other, really concentrate on it, on how you must hold your foot just so, so that it can support your weight, and how you must keep your knee from bending by having exactly so much tension in this upper leg muscle, and that position of your left arm and so on and so on and so on, well, you wouldn’t be able to walk at all, because your conscious mind just cant keep up with your unconscious mind. But your conscious mind trusts your unconscious mind to do all the things it learns, and your unconscious mind trusts your conscious mind to teach it all the things that both need to be, do, and have all the things you need to be, to do, and to have. to have a conscious mind to teach the unconscious mind all the things it can make your body do, or to understand the sights and sounds, or to understand the feelings in your body, those feelings in side of you, those emotions you have.

And we have those emotions, those feelings just like any feeling in our body. so we know what is happening. If you lose your balance, you know it immediately, before you fall. And that’s good. Your feeling startles you and comes into your consciousness, just like an alarm clock, so you do something to correct your fall, and stay upright. There is a good reason for that feeling, just like any other feeling, like any other emotion. If you are sad, or angry, or afraid or guilty, there is a good reason for that. But unlike a feeling in our body, like that off-balance feeling, we have forgotten so many of the details of that, we only notice the feelings unless we ask our unconscious to slow that down. And when we do slow that down, sometimes we think the feeling lasts too long, too long, too long and we think don’t WANT to slow that down.

So here is the trick about day-dreams. These are the times we DO slow down those thoughts and images about that. That brought you here. That is what you have been day-dreaming about, all about that. And you can control your day-dreams can’t you, If you don’t like the way it’s going, make it change: so that you DO get the raise for all the hard work. So your friend WILL appreciate it when you become completely honest about those things. And instead of making images about how it is really OK to do those things, whatever thing you want to change, you just do that in your day-dream

So share your day-dreams with me, they are the way your mind wants to learn. The results of all your day-dreams are the way your life is today. Do you like it, do you like you life as it is now? NO? Then explore your day-dreams with me and we can find a better way to dream. And learn about a new life that can be yours, right now.

We can create a system composed of smaller parts. We can install parts that can operate independently and usefully for our own benefit. When we ask these parts to operate harmoniously for a common good, and without emotional involvement, we have a way to create brain mechanisms that have positive results.

Example The sales machine: (inspired by Tad James’ five step sales process)
The sales machine is composed of several smaller machines that all work together. Let’s describe them and at the same time you can install them. You can visualize them as little men, black boxes, white boxes, using any rep-system or modality you feel works best for you. Whatever is vivid and easily remembered.

The Value detector.
This machine is constantly combing over what we have heard from our client and comparing it with the features of our product. Each time it detects a match that indicates VALUE, it suggests that value match for you to pass on to the client.

The Rapport generator.
This assembly is very useful in lots of contexts. It is in charge of matching the energy level of our client. It tracks the body position, the voice tempo, rhythm, etc. It is constantly matching for similarities that you and your client share. It passes these suggestions to your conscious mind to pass on to the client, either verbally or non-verbally.

The Linking generator.
This small machine constantly generates suggestions that match the features of your product with the values that are acknowledged by the client. These suggestions that link your product with the value are passed on to the client.

The agreement generator.
This machine packages all suggestions into phrases softened by the Milton Model, answering questions with questions, tag questions, embedded commands, etc. Always asking the client for agreement.

The map detector.
This machine inspects our client’s communication for Meta-model violations. It suggests areas to explore. Any significant topics that come from the client are passed on to the value detector.

The benefits generator.
This machine starts the ball rolling by asking what the client feels is important regarding his context. You will use this to pass on to the value generator.

The feedback machine.
This machine filters ALL input and disconnects it from emotional responses. There is only feedback, remember?

The Close generator.
Each time there is a positive response from the client regarding a value link, this generator comes up with a suggestion for an appropriate close. The close should be passed through the agreement generator, don’t you think?

The machines labeled ‘feedback’; ‘map detector’ ‘agreement generator’ and ‘rapport’ are very general and are used in most all NLP driven interpersonal communication.

Finally, draw a picture of how these machines interconnect. You can refer to this picture for the first few times that you use this machine. That will help fine-tune and refine the installation of this machine.

That’s not to deny the highs or lows of emotions: a little excess now and then is a good thing. But there are very few good reasons to keep playing useless emotions over and over, are there not? If what you are feeling is getting you to where your soul really needs to “be, do or have,” then go for it. If not, then you don’t have celarien and you need to dump those useless emotional tapes– (easier said than done, if you don’t know how).

The Celarien Experience (which is the trade name of a business) is that unique emotional “A-Ha!” that is oriented to get you one step closer to celarien. They use lots of NLP and hypnotheraputic type good stuff to break up useless emotional log-jams and get your emotions back into service for you. Check out http://www.celarien.com/ or http://www.celarien.com/honolulu

But very little is done to find out how to enhance the placebo effect. Would it not be better if someone focused on how to make that 30% turn into 80%? That is, make it work more consistently, for more people, more often? That’s only one of the gifts of NLP.

Um. Probably not. But without any further information about what really did happen in the cars ahead, you actually could say that. And if you did, you wouldn’t really be angry or frustrated, would you? But few of us actually do think like that: to give the other person the “benefit of the doubt.”

We could just stop here and say: “give the other person the benefit of the doubt.” Essentially that’s what all you teachers told you. It’s what your mom told you. It’s what your Rabbi, Priest, or Minister told you. It may even be what your doctor told you.
What they didn’t tell you was HOW. (oh, your minister said you need to believe in God more. How did that work for you?)

So, the big question here is how would you like to get more awareness of how you experience life: What goes on inside your filters of awareness and how you form your attitutes? This is an important question, and only you can generate the answer for yourself. You may just not be interested, It may be OK for your attitudes and emotions to be at someone’s mercy (how many times have you said: “he kept PUSHING MY BUTTONS.”) That’s essentially what G.W.Bush did to inflame and increase fear so that he was likely to be re-elected President. He kept pushing the public’s fear button. From the result, it seems that most folk are quite happy to be attitudinal puppets.

If you are still reading, I’m going to assume that you’re going to stay with us to learn more about how we experience reality.

OK. look at the graphic of the head. Pretend that’s your mind in there: You have some Gad-zillion things happening out there. You get stuff coming into your ears, eyes, skin, internal nerve sensors, nose, tongue. At the same time, you are listening to that little talking voice that is your thoughts. If we were able to digitize all that (we can’t, thank goodness) we might come up with some 200 to 2000 million bits per second. Probably more. That’s alot. Too much. Your consciousness just couldn’t handle that much, so your UN-conscious mind takes care of filtering most of that out.